Heal Your Emotional Heart, Today

Have you ever felt betrayed, hurt or disappointed by another person? Harboring feelings inflicted by another will keep us in a negative self-image because we begin to identify with what someone else has done or said to us. A few weeks ago I went to Hawaii to visit an old male friend who was interested in exploring our compatibility. We had an amazing first week together, then I started to notice little actions on his part that were not serving me. He became unreliable, unresponsive and distant. I responded by feeling hurt, stating my hurt and asking why this person was not showing up for me.

This person could not give me what I needed because he was going through some major healing of his own after a long relationship.Instead of finding love with him, I found a new love of myself in which I was able to say NO, change my reactions, and make decisions on the rest of the trip to take care of myself, not waiting for this person to show up. My past self would have felt rejected, hurt and dissapointed. But instead, I found myself recognizing that his traits and actions had no influence on who I know to be as a person and what I deserve. I changed when I least expected and feel stronger than ever in my ability to choose what supports me. 

By separating yourself from the pain and hurtful remarks inflicted upon by others, we are able to see it as a memory, and not hold on to the feeling which will only limit and sabotage us from living full and meaningful lives. In doing so, you change your vibration and create a new self-image, attracting relationships that will be loving and supportive. Instead of saying “I am hurt”, I am now saying “That did not serve me and I am okay to move on and surround myself with people that do.” As we reframe old beliefs with new ones, change what we think about what someone else’s remarks or actions mean, let go of toxic ties, forgive others and oneself, we are able to be happier whether we are with or without someone in our lives. The feeling is something we create. Our goal is to be left with the memory and no pain at all.

How Bodywork, Wellness Counseling and Heart Centered Therapy Services can support you in Healing your Emotional Heart.

I am so impressed by the courageousness of some of my clients who have sought out bodywork services with me in order to heal physical ailments that they know are associated with past emotional trauma.  Self-acceptance, being able to let go of the past, the ability to ask for what they need or to speak what is on their mind are just some of the positive new changes that I have witnessed. Bodywork also can allow for a safe and nurturing touch to enter one’s life, by releasing old aches associated with painful memories.

Wellness Counseling attracts healthy individuals who seek change, but are feeling stuck or can’t seem to stop unwanted behavior patterns. Wellness Counseling asks questions to help reframe thoughts, behaviors and circumstances in achieving what a person wants or how they want to perceive a situation or a part of thyself. Individuals who aspire toward further self-fulfillment, but do not require psychologcial services for treatment of diagnosable conditions. Tap into your higher self to find clarity and achieve what you want in life.

Heart Centered Therapy is a loving and gentle approach to emotional healing, holding profound insight into the “Psychology of the Human Heart.” HCT involves dialogue techniques that bring healing to our deepest spiritual-emotional wounds that have blocked us from realizing our full potential and purpose in life. The healing involves not only the individual, but everyone that has been involved in the trauma, embracing the immediate family, lineage, and the collective consciousness through transformation of the whole being.

To learn more about Wellness Counseling services offered by Jennifer Telford, please visit http://www.hoano.com/MotivationLifeCoaching.htm

Heart Centered Therapy services are also available. Please inquire within by visiting Hoano
Skype and phone sessions available.

A Cup of Java: Caffeine and Women’s Health

Since moving to Los Angeles, I have become quite intrigued with drinking coffee. In the past, I wouldn’t get near the stuff because I didn’t like how coffee gave me the jitters. In reflecting on why I have become such a coffee lover, drinking coffee evokes an atmosphere of culture, like the European coffeehouses where artists and intellects join in conversation. Coffee also gives me a mild, yet stimulating euphoric high that provokes clear thoughts and motivates my daily tasks. Coffee fills an emotional void, similar to how emotional eating fills a void.

However, according to Dr. Laurie Steelsmith
coffee is a methylxanthine which is a compound that interferes with enzymes in the breast, resulting in fibrocystic breast condition. Reducing caffeine intake from coffee and chocolate can eliminate lumpy, painful breasts.” Though fibrocystic breasts are seen as benign, if not managed can result in more serious symptoms of the breast tissue. She also quotes that, “coffee depletes your kidney essence, leaving you more Qi-depleted than you were before you drank it.”

For now, I have decided to reduce my coffee intake to no more than 1 x a week. The emotional satisfaction coupled by the caffeine makes me think twice before making a cup of java. Instead, why not substitute that urge with lemon and water which is cleansing to the liver or a tea filled with powerful herbal nutrients. Loving oneself by making healthy choices for our body and mind requires self-discipline. This can be achieved through exercise, body and breast awareness,
affirmations, meditation, and journaling. Start by taking baby steps. The more I stay away from the craving, the more I am able to sit with my feelings and fill myself with a wholeness and joy that coffee is only masking temporarily.

For more information on caffeine and women’s health visit:
Women to Women

In love and light,

Jennifer Andrea of Hoano

Part 1: Beautiful in Your Own Skin: A Natural Approach to Breast Augmentation

Beautiful in Your Own Skin

I have a client who once wanted to have a breast lift. She said that her breasts were sagging after having nursed three children and if they had a lift they would have a perk to them and that would make her happier.

An ex-playboy bunny, who also used to sell bikinis on the beach, was now mentally struggling with the decision to cosmetically alter her breasts. Her struggle was due largely to the fact that it was her body that earned her salary and her outside appearance was important to her. Though she wanted this she knew deep down that as a naturalist resorting to surgery to create perkier breasts wasn’t really the route for her.

As her therapist who provides her monthly lymphatic drainage and breast care sessions,
I suggested to her to massage her breasts
regularly as a complement to our lymphatic breast care sessions.

Regularly massaging the breasts with an organic herbal oil blend
increases oxygen and nutrients to the breast tissue, promotes circulation, strengthens and adds resiliency thereby helping to enhance the firmness of your breasts.

A recent study in Thailand shows that breast augmentation is now being replaced with massage and exercises as a natural way to firm breast tissue. The techniques developed by the Public Health Ministry, are seen as a holistic alternative to expensive and risky surgery and have shown to be 100% satisfactory. (Honolulu Advertiser, Feb.15, 2003)

After months of receiving lymphatic breast care and doing her own self-massage of which has improved the feel and look of her breasts and self-body image, I asked my client if she would like to do a wellness counseling session
to see if her need for a breast lift was a result of a deeper emotional issue that needed to be addressed. The session concluded that she wasn’t listening to the wisdom of her heart and that breast augmentation was merely an exterior to a more delicate issue of self-nurturing. Her role as wife and mother often took precedence over her own needs which is common for many women.

Now, when I see her for sessions, I never hear her talk about her need for perkier breasts. This was the first time she was able to express her needs and concerns and it became the foundation for her in the months to come of assessing her own needs and learning to take care of herself amongst her other roles. Now she exudes an inner confidence that is completely comfortable in her skin and happy with her body and breasts.

Please note: The author of this article is presenting one story of a woman’s decision not to do breast augmentation to create awareness about alternative therapies to support one’s emotional and physical well-being in promoting breast wellness. The author is unbiased on this topic and supports a woman in whatever decision she makes regarding breast augmentation whether it be life saving or cosmetic.